Monday, June 27, 2011

The friend, its getting serious now.

To get caught up, read these links starting with the first one:

Now I will admit a little white lie, he doesn't have a girlfriend, he has a wife. I initially said girlfriend because I originally thought giving out too much exact details was just not a good thing to do.  Thought that maybe nothing would really become of this anyways, no sense to be exact, better to be safe.  Well, it seems it is taking a turn for the lava.  Hard right, square into a big pool of it.  So, since it seems it might turn out to be more, I might as well make it be as hot as it is, he is married.

Which to him this means he is just getting vanilla sex at home and wants something more.  And I mean a lot more.  Let me repeat as its worth repeating.  He doesnt want anything the resembles normal sex.  He said that if he is going to risk this, he wants the sex that really turns him on, the sex he doesn't get at home, the sex that is off the charts.  He is in his 40's, good looking, fat cock, been with a lot of woman before he got married.  He remembers what it was like to have sex that was not inside a relationship.  Sex that let him chase what turns him on.  Sex that is probably for one night or just a few where both explored things a little outside the norm as it was thrilling being so new and wild.  I think he got to the point where he immediately dominated the woman, immediately brought the submissive out in her and ran with it from there.  And That Is What Turns Him On.

I say it like that, because that is what he wants. This is not going to go down any other way.  If he is going to risk this, then he wants EXACTLY what he wants and no less.  He has described some of this, some in detail actually. And it is very powerful stuff.  Very hardcore.  Very dominant. Very rough.  This is what turns him on and is the only way he is willing to do this.  When I told her what he has been texting to me, she wimpered.  She said yes, yes, yes, I will do what ever he wants me to do, including swallowing his cum (this is something she will not do as it makes her gag from the texture).  And this was just me passing some information to her that he was telling me on how it was going to work.  Her and him have not had any communication about this.  He in fact has not made a decision to do anything yet, he was just feeling things out if she was actually going to be up for it, able to do exactly what he tells her to do.  He said if he senses any hesitation on her part, then he is not interested.  Said she has potential, but that she has a long way to go.  Said that if he loses interest, then that is the end of that. Mentioned sex is for babies and sex is for pleasure.  Said he is talking about non of that, talking about things much greater, about her developing kinks,  for her to listen to him, do as he says, and he will teach her to cum when he first enters her ass which will then turn him on enough to cum just after a few slow strokes.  He said he doesn't have a lot of time, his visits will be short, she will be prepped by his instruction and the real events of him calling her to instruct her to get ready, him pulling his truck out front, him walking across the lawn, him knocking on the door and him finally entering the house and getting close to her are all real actual events that she will now desire and use to turn herself on and be ready to cum when he enters her.  Those are her new kinks that she is to focus on.

Now, he went into a lot more detail with me, most of which I could barely believe what I was hearing.  But I am not going to go into it more until I see it start to happen,  he said he might send her an email and depending on how she responded, would decide if she interested him and would be worth his time.

Um, wow.  Im stunned.  He painted about 100 other scenarios that were all blistering hot.  Had so much control over her, yet she would only desire more, to be released to him, to finally be able to feel his cock in her, the one thing that would release her to an ultimate orgasm.  Each and every visit.  15 min at the most, sometime he said he would spend time with her longer, but frequently it would not be possible as he was a busy man and had places to be.

I will post more as it happens. Its still all talk right now, hot talk, but until he sends her an email, she responds, and then he starts the first event by calling her, I will hold back, don't want to jinx it!! lol 

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Porn, hot scenarios, and at least I know what I like.

In general, in the spoken public's mentality, porn only does harm to the community and to the family makeup.  In certain circumstances, I agree, especially for those that are more prone to addictions.  Experts say if it interferes with your day to day living, then you probably have a problem.  This is obviously different for each person and for each situation as your partner or family may be more open minded or non tolerant of such things.  Ever heard porn doing good for someone?  Me.

For the hurtful example, my last relationship ended, thankfully, and one of the things she would say was a problem was my surfing of porn on the internet.  I find this quite funny, since I barely surfed for any at all, never kept any adult magazines in the house and generally just left it alone.  Not entirely, and certainly not when she was not putting out and being a bitch for months at a time.  Fuck that, I am going to stroke one out and if I needed material to do so then so be it.  But in this relationship, I have def surfed for more, have quite a large collection of pics and vids saved on my hard drives, yet it really doesn't take much of my time up each day or every other couple days.  My wonderful woman is very open minded and doesn't scold me for doing so like I know happens in a lot of other relationships/families.  Our relationship is not hurt by it, in fact, we have looked at a lot of porn together and it gets her worked up big time.  Totally opposite of my previous relationship.

As a result, I live a much more stress free life.  I am not always looking over my shoulder to hide something I 'shouldn't be looking at' bullshit.  What has now occurred is that I am much more free to be myself and not worry of my woman being intimated by porn stars, my sex drive stays higher all the time and I actually focus on her more and hunt her down as the true source of all my pleasure. Most women would feel that they are being replaced or have to live up to something that they can never bee.  I am sure that this causes depression in women that stay quiet about it or don't have great communication skill with their mate so even if they wanted to talk about it, it comes out wrong and ends in a fight.  I can totally understand this. I know this is very hurtful, but for a lot of reasons that have to do with being raised and just not learning good skills on connecting with your mate.

My situation is probably a little unique to most.  Its hard to put in words but I am going to try and I think I understand it pretty well now.  Here it is in a nutshell.  My woman is very lucky.  Instead of her man not understanding what turns him on, her man does.  I know after many years of looking at porn what really turns me on, physically, about a woman's body.  And she is it.  She found the one guy that absolutely worships her body.  Not 90%, not 99%, you get the idea.  Once I met her and got to know her and realized that emotionally she was the woman I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, I then saw her naked body and that was it.  I found the ultimate combination of attraction in a woman.   I have read that a man needs to be loved physically before he can love emotionally.  A woman needs to be loved emotionally before she can love physically.  I think we nailed it.

She can actually thank porn for that.  No kidding.  After all that I have seen in porn and really fucking hot chicks, stand them all in a line and let me choose one that turns me on the most and my woman is it.  Only because I have 'checked out' so many woman is this even possible for her to be in this place in my mind.

Like many couples, what about the man not knowing 100% what sets him off?  What triggers things in him that makes him go absolutely fucking berserk that he must fuck her, must claim her.  To be honest, we all know what happens when the guy quits chasing the woman.  That's it, nada, all done, the fat lady is singing.  Its not even her fault, the relationship is ending at this point, time is all that is keeping the final separation from happening.

He just doesn't know what it is that needs to be triggered in him and he will search, even though he is with his supposed soul mate.  Worse, he then half chases her instead of letting her go.  Worse thing ever, he is faking it, maybe they have a child together, maybe one of many reasons men quit pursuing their woman, what ever it is, that is the biggest shame as he is actually wasting both their lives.  Her true soul mate is out there, looking for her, and this dip shit has her all tied up and doing his bidding each day as she slips into depression and half smiles.  Maybe he is even cheating on her.  Fucking asshole, really, think how far this really fucks up things.  Years wasted.  What could be worse then years wasted? Anybody? Life pulled from a person in which we only have so much to begin with.  What is more valuable and therefore what is more damaging in the long run? Everything can be fixed, made better, improved, with time, and this poor woman now has less because of this mans inability to know what he wants.

Am I so different?  Is this something new? No, its not new, belly dancers come to mind.  Seriously.  Yes, belly dancers.  I say it was the first kind of porn that can be traced back over 6000 years.  Google it.  Take a young and impressionable man and let him watch some good belly dancers way back when.  It would not take long before he discovered some things about himself, about what truly gets his heart racing, about the movements of the female body that make him dream of things.  You think I'm stretching a little? Hell, I even get a little mesmerized when I see a belly dancer doing her thing, gyrating her hips in a nice slow circle.  As if she was sitting on my lap and circling around on my cock.  I would not last long and I am sure there were some women back in the day that make modern belly dancers look like girl scouts on Easter Sunday. 

I am sure there are many other ways men discovered things they liked back then, belly dancers are just low fruit for me to see right off the bat, hopefully it worked for them and they go to chasing the right woman for them.  Lucky girl she would be if he found her.  If he is true to himself, he will never stop chasing her.

I did it.  And now, I am mesmerized and literally stunned by euphoric pleasure by seeing my woman in hot scenarios, ones that all the creative porn directors have had fun with doing their thing with their porn stars in the past and soon to happen in the future.  Thanks to them, they opened up a whole new world of creativity.  Where I might have run out of ideas, there is not a shortage of scenarios to run through my mind that they have thrown out there that really get me going.  The 'photo shoot' scenario that I have briefly talked about on a previous post is one, WAY TO FUCKING HOT, this one is mind blowing for me.  I can only hope to do more in the future.  More hot scenarios include seeing her pleasure a big cocked alpha, getting that big cock hard by her hot body.  Seeing her excite him and get him moving, his own instincts being brought alive by her body and how she moves.  Seeing him awaken and become slightly dominate as he moves to claim her, his way.  As time passes, he is over taken by her presence and what she does to him that he is compelled instinctively to over power her gently as he pulls her into his bubble , exciting her, releasing her. In the midst of it all he takes what he needs from her. She only gets turned on by a man getting off on her, creating quite a view from my seat as they both build to taking and giving and feeding off of each others pleasure.  My video camera glows from capturing such scorching hot stuff on it, at least it would if it could as I have some of these moments captured already.  Just glimpses though, hopefully more to come..

I can go on and on, and you know what?  I will.  Along with some of my thoughts of her hookups in the past,  I am going to post what scenarios I think are really fucking hot, what really gets my crank turning.  Some we have already done and really need to be repeated as there will never be enough of those moments being the success they were.  Others we have not done, but who knows, maybe in the future we will be treated to things that blow my mind, might she treat me to such things.  Since I have seen so many hot scenes, I know the only true way to make them over the top.  No porn stars.  My woman.  Its not the porn star that makes me all hot, its my woman in a real scene with real orgasms, with real instincts coming alive.  I know what I like.  Hopefully I can put some together some time, maybe she wants to excite me, take me over the top to higher places I did not know could be reached.  Maybe she will learn what she likes of them too and we make some hot nights. What if we both liked the same things? Wow, things are going to get hot. Thanks for all the hot ideas Porn Directors!  Although I know they are a little jealous since our nights are real.....

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

I love my hotwife's thoughts

She just told me at lunch that when she gets back from her break, that she wants to get back into the 'swing' of things.  She doesn't realize how much that turns me on.  After so many weeks of waiting on my tip toes and peaking over the fence to see if she is getting horny, this is a highlight of my week to hear this.

She takes breaks for various reasons, but she seems to have two that she really leans on as they are connected.   The main one  is she wants to re-connect with me to bring it back to the way it was before we started hooking her up with guys.  The other is that each encounter seems to wear her out mentally just a little bit.  Actually, I don't think I am explaining that well.  I think its the drama of each encounter.  Even if the drama is very very small as large ones would obviously wear her out.  Its any thought she has outside of her and me.  This extra 'thought' is , well, extra.  Would not call it a burden, but it is heavy.  It's something she has with her that she does not have when it is just her and I.  It can be overwhelming for her that in the end, she wants a few days or weeks off from thinking about it all.  To clear the mind and to possibly get ready for another encounter in a few weeks.  This can take a week or a few.  It also seems to make her want to take a break a couple times a year for a month or two.

I think these breaks are also pretty natural but at the same time, we might not be doing things exactly right.  Could it be they are a sign?  I mean, break it down to something much simpler, I think anyone would love to click their fingers and fuck who ever they wanted in any way they wanted as long as they could click their fingers again and resume normal life just as fast as if nothing had happened other then a sweet 'ass orgasm or 5 or 10.  I bet they would do it a couple times a week even.  I know this because a lot of people are masturbating out there, on a pretty frequent basis and this is the best substitute that keeps the real thing a fantasy. I will think about this some more, but this is the ideal fantasy that if we could get reality pretty close then dammit, that would be something, wouldn't it?

I will of course will give her all the time and space she needs, always.  But nothing turns me on more to see her letting go sexually and any break she takes from these new encounters just makes me want to seem them more.  I guess through this blog I make her sound like she is ready for sex 24/7 and wants a new guy every day, when in reality this is far from the truth.  Very far.  Not even sure of the numbers, but she has been with around 7 guys her entire life.  I could be off by 1, but not more than 2.  Point being is I think a lot of woman go through that many in their first semester of college.  So while this is a hotwife blog, she is not only new to the hotwife lifestyle, she is really just opening her eyes to what other women have been experiencing just being single at a much younger age.

That being said, I don't take any of her encounters for granted.  I thoroughly enjoy each and every one.  I get to see her experiencing so much for the first time and see her grow and reach out for what she wants next.  That is a huge turn on, huge.

So, the more I would love more encounters to happen, the more I also do not want to influence an encounter to happen that is not pretty natural for her.  I wrote an article for www.hotwifelife.com , should post in a couple days, but it really talks about one of the things that is so hot in the hotwife life. Its exactly what I am talking about here, seeing things that would have taken place naturally, I am just lucky enough to be able to see it.  Read the article for more.

After saying all of this, I can only think of one thing.  How can more encounters happen that do not cause her to want to take a break as often and that are still something that she really wants, not me pushing things at all and thereby creating an unnatural encounter that she never would have had if I had not 'pushed'.  When I say pushed, that sounds harsh,  I just mean she ends up doing it for me and not for her.  Even 50/50 is fine, though I would love it to be 100% her, just not for me only.  Not interested in seeing that.  This does not mean I can't suggest something and even set it up all the way.  That sounds hot, but only if she wants it, once again, not just for me.

So how? Well, that's what is in my thoughts these days.  I don't have the best answer.  I have some ideas.  Some might even work.  I do know that I want to keep letting her know that her and I are good.  That when it comes to her and I, we are relaxed and drama free. Just as we have always been, easy going and a pleasure to hang out with.

How to make all the future encounters drama free to be easy on the mind? Possibly less talk and more fucking?  I mean really, make the common ground a completely NSA meet and less fluff, less anything other then fucking.  She has had a couple of those, and frankly, those are the ones she likes the best, but the others, its like she just ran too much stuff through her mind for it to be truly free and easy to work with.  It seems like if the chit chat outside of sex was short but sweet and the fucking was awesome, then she only wanted more.  Too much chit chat and letting go of too much personnel stuff made her think too much everything entirely.   It may have even made the sex more interesting, maybe not, to share that much personal stuff, but in the end, it still burdened her down in the mind, wore her out a little.  She has pulled away in the past and will pull away in the future on these is what I think.*(Not talking about talk during sex, different animal there, that's bubble territory and a requirement for a stud that knows what he is doing, read my blog for more on that.) 

I don't know, I am still learning about this all, all I can do is look at what the ideal situation is and compare it to what it is now and see where to bridge the two.  If she was OH MY GOD happy all the time and having hot sexy encounters once a week to what ever frequency she wanted because it only made her feel good, then bingo, I would love to make that happen. But I need to talk to her about it, see how she feels about things and listen to what she says.  We might be able to try something in a new way and see how she feels after that and go from there.  I am pretty sure she would love to have more frequent encounters also, but not at the expense of being worn out.  Quality over quantity, but wants wrong with making the quantities into quality ones and enjoying them all? hmmmm....